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Friday, November 04, 2005

Things like this just SHOULDN'T happen

Yesterday, when I got home from work, Nikki pulled me into my bedroom and closed the door behind me. "Mom, I need to talk to you," she said, with that distressed look on her face that I know too well.

It turns out that, on the bus ride home from school yesterday, meanboyC (one of 2 mean brothers that lives in the housing complex across the street - I've blogged about them before) asked her, in front of a bunch of other 4th and 5th grade boys, whether she was a virgin. Not knowing what it meant, and not wanting to be embarrassed, she said "no". Of course, it was the wrong answer, and the boys errupted in peals of laughter at her expense. Before the end of the bus ride, she knew what the word meant, and knew the cause of their laughter and her humiliation.

"Mom," she said, through her tears, "I pretended I was reading so they wouldn't notice that I was trying not to cry."

GRRRR!!!! I am just SO annoyed at these two pipsqueaks who continuously torment my children and other children at school and on the bus. It's been going on for a few years now - they are rotten little children who only know how to get attention through bad behaviour. Both Marcel and I have had opportunity in the past to yell at them at the bus stop for doing stupid things like dodging cars as they drive by, or throwing snowballs at passing motorists.

At supper time, we talked about it as a family, and we heard story after story of their bad behaviour. Julie reports meanboyM using the "F" word to her in the playground, and teasing her to make her feel stupid. And the stories go on and on.

I wish they'd get kicked out of school! I know they probably have a tough family life - their mother looks permanently frazzled trying to cope with her life - but I WISH they didn't have to take that out on MY KIDS!

This morning, Marcel drove the girls to school (Nikki was nervous of getting teased again on the bus) and he stopped to talk to the principal about it. Turns out there was another report of misbehaviour on the bus yesterday, so he may be suspended from bus use AGAIN. But these short term suspensions aren't doing any long term good. And in the meantime, so many kids, including my own, are getting subjected to idiotic bullying.

4 comments:

Anvilcloud said...

I don't know what the solution is. I have sat in a veep's office as a teacher and overheard him on the phone trying to justify suspensions to the downtown bureaucrats. Accountability is one thing, but micro-managing is another.

Michele said...

that is SO mean. it makes me want to throttle those kids. I want to ride that bus and give them the what-for. call the newspapers...call it sexual harassment on the bus. that is completely unacceptable and should be punished by more than just not letting them ride the bus.

Linda said...

Well, the bible tells me to "love my enemies." That's pretty tough to do here. I want wring their ugly little necks. That is SO wrong. Thankfully Nikki trusted you enough to share this shame with you. You said in your other post today that you wish you could share some of your sister's pain. Well, you've shared your daughter's pain today. Lucky girl

Gina said...

That is horrible, Heather!

I am sorry that had to happen to her, she is such a sweet girl.

I will never understand parents who allow their children to be bullies. All of us have difficulties, all of us have problems to deal with. That doesn't mean we allow our children to run amuck!