Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Reflections on my 43rd birthday

1. I didn’t know 43 would feel so YOUNG!
2. I thought I’d be smarter by now.
3. No matter how old and comfortable in your own skin you get, it’s still always nice when someone remembers and wishes you a happy birthday.
4. It seems my daughters managed to pick up a little kindness along the way to teen-hood. The oldest two bought me the soundtrack for Slumdog Millionaire for my birthday.
5. It feels good to know that, at 43, I’m pretty close to where I’d like to be in my life. I live with few regrets.
6. Perhaps we should be in the habit of making birthday resolutions rather than New Year’s resolutions.
7. In my 44th year, I resolve to be kinder to myself and to the people I love (yes, that means you, Marcel.)
8. I resolve to give away more things.
9. I resolve to forgive myself for wasting time.
10. I resolve to be me and not wish I were someone else.
11. I think this might be the year that something big will be launched. I’m not exactly sure what it looks like yet, though.
12. My Brazilian friend wished me a Brazilian birthday wish for “everything that is good in the world”. I like it.
13. I really need to make a better effort to record people’s birthdays. A friend on the east coast phoned me this morning to wish me a happy birthday – I’d mentioned the date months ago, and he wrote it down and remembered. That’s classy.
14. A few years ago, I was working at a place where I wasn’t very happy and had few friends. Nobody wished me a happy birthday all day and I didn’t tell anyone it was my birthday. It was a lonely day.
15. Thanks to the wonders of Facebook, several work friends know it’s my birthday today. It doesn’t feel as lonely.
16. I wish I’d made lunch arrangements with a friend today. A birthday lunch would be nice.
17. At 43, I guess I’m about halfway through my life. I think the next half is going to be the best half.
18. The first half’s been pretty good too.
19. I like being in my forties. It feels old enough to have gained a bit of wisdom, but young enough to still be foolish now and then.
20. The only problem is – I still haven’t figured out what I want to be when I grow up.
21. I just got a lovely serendipitous Skype call from one of my favourite people who’s in Holland right now. She didn’t know it was my birthday, but phoned me spontaneously none-the-less. It was a lovely birthday surprise.
22. In a second call from Holland, it was lovely to hear the harmonizing voices of my mom and her husband singing happy birthday to me.
23. I should be at home right now, reading a book. I just heard from a friend that there’s an old saying that “if you spend your birthday working, you will work every day of the year ahead.”
24. I have met a lot of really cool people in my 43 years.
25. I've been to a lot of really cool places in my 43 years.
26. After the 2 calls, I'm wishing I were in Holland right now.
27. Our consultants just sang happy birthday to me on a conference call. That's what you call "going the extra mile" as a consultant.
28. In another lovely birthday surprise, I've just been invited to participate in a fundraising art exhibit! Ach! The organizer couldn't believe I'd only started painting in January.


mmichele said...

Yay 43! Thanks for paving the way.

Liz said...

Happy Birthday Heather!

Gina said...

Happy Birthday, Heather! May your next year be your best one yet!

Anonymous said...

#2 - don't know how you could be, I think you are wise beyond your years now
#14 - I'm sorry if that included me; I've been there too and I know how it feels
#16 - any time! (well almost any time - today would have been fine)

At 44 I feel very old in my body but very young in my mind - I still feel like a kid a lot of the time, I'm not sure I'm old enough to have a mortgage and I don't know what I want to be when I grow up either. I remember my mom saying that just a few years before she died, so perhaps it never goes away and maybe that's ok - we can always strive for new and different options and not get stale.


Judy said...

Happy Happy Birthday!


elaine said...

happy birthday, you have only just begun, hold onto your hat, you sound you have marvellous things ahead of you... many blessings..

Pamela said...

may you grow in grace (instead of a pinch to grow an inch)

Happy Birthday Heather.

Karmyn R said...

Happy Birthday, Heather!!!!

I like the Brazilian birthday greeting.

(and I felt like a shmuck today - forgot to with my little sister a happy birthday yesterday.)

Stephanie said...

Happiest of birthdays, Heather! What a lovely list of reflections.