tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post6890300422517246759..comments2023-10-14T04:54:09.328-05:00Comments on Fumbling for Words: Art of the bodyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-74278150378909829782011-03-31T05:50:03.904-05:002011-03-31T05:50:03.904-05:00Great Post here. I am glad for your courage to sha...Great Post here. I am glad for your courage to share this post.Recruitment Softwarehttp://www.platina.co.innoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-86988750949760778412010-05-27T08:26:22.383-05:002010-05-27T08:26:22.383-05:00In today’s world where everything is being automat...In today’s world where everything is being automated and is being done online I think that it’s very important that an organization takes steps to automate it’s recruitment and selection process by using quality applicant tracking software.Online Applicant tracking Softwarehttp://www.nitman.co.in/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-42501962822093302192010-02-14T19:06:05.283-06:002010-02-14T19:06:05.283-06:00Almost 20 years ago, I spent an evening flat on my...Almost 20 years ago, I spent an evening flat on my stomach, sobbing into the carpet as I anticipated the surgery that was coming in a few days, a bilateral mastectomy and immediate reconstruction. I was 40 and had been diagnosed with the familial form of breast cancer that had killed my mother on her 45th birthday. Yet, I had some of the same doubts you and one of your readers expressed. Should I have reconstructive surgery? Were breasts really that important? At the height of some feminist literature, I was reading in some places that reconstruction was a giving in to others' ideas of feminity, a surrendering to conventional norms. That night, I dreamed my legs rather than my breasts were being amputated. I realized that the dream was my way of trying to show people, but more importantly, myself, how important my feelings were about my breasts, as unbeautiful as they were at the time after having nursed two daughters. So I grieved. I had the reconstruction. And for almost 20 years, I've been glad. The surgery, that plastic surgery, that reconstructive surgery, gave me some control over my life. I don't think "breast cancer victim" when I look in the mirror. Give yourself leaway to grieve over the necessity for your decision--if not for the cancer, I would eventually have considered reduction surgery, too--and stop questioning whether it's okay to do. Whatever you need to do is okay to do. Then, when you've grieved enough, be glad and content.Linda P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03514116616513211458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-46985698518251907162010-02-02T12:15:18.138-06:002010-02-02T12:15:18.138-06:00Heather - I'm glad the process is transparent ...Heather - I'm glad the process is transparent here - makes me think.<br /><br />I've never looked at breast reduction surgery as "plastic surgery" similar to Heidi Montag's debacle in the U.S. That's why I find your query about what message you're sending to your daughters so thought provoking.<br /><br />You are creating a body that is healthy, comfortable, and makes if possible to be active. <br /><br />I'm looking forward to hearing more.Karlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16433191926314878774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-60016080292815508682010-01-29T18:58:37.910-06:002010-01-29T18:58:37.910-06:00Courage my friend. Thanks for sharing.Courage my friend. Thanks for sharing.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15222197140433385319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-20360191031365823562010-01-29T15:51:20.046-06:002010-01-29T15:51:20.046-06:00Such vulnerability and honest heart sharing - oh, ...Such vulnerability and honest heart sharing - oh, it blesses my heart - thank you for, Heather - for sharing (of course) - but for BEing the kind of person who reflects and who is deep and multi-layered - and (well - here we are back at sharing again) courageous enough to SHARE your ponderings with us. thank you thank you!Square-Peg Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11517814281600079549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-20615486130927650372010-01-28T22:16:42.132-06:002010-01-28T22:16:42.132-06:00March feels really SOON.March feels really SOON.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-16699662274288020062010-01-28T17:08:40.569-06:002010-01-28T17:08:40.569-06:00Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Heathe...Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Heather, I hope there are others to whom you are able to talk about this. I'm the opposite to you, I'm waiting for a reconstruction, following radical surgery for breast cancer. I want the surgery, but I keep wondering if I should learn to accept my body as it is now. I have major body image issues & I don't think the surgery is going to help me, on the other hand I'm not sure I can spend the rest of my life like this. It's difficult. However, I wish you well & send you my very best wishes. Love & light.Kirsten Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13522849402331114498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-50322413440902714072010-01-28T14:54:19.611-06:002010-01-28T14:54:19.611-06:00Powerful, insightful post. Thank you for articula...Powerful, insightful post. Thank you for articulating the emotions surrounding this decision. I have two (admittedly opposing) regrets about my own reduction surgery 10 years ago: not doing it sooner and not emotionally processing more in advance. Best wishes to you.angelahttp://www.angelakelsey.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-44115542811092028012010-01-28T11:27:19.168-06:002010-01-28T11:27:19.168-06:00Powerful words. Thank you so much for sharing them...Powerful words. Thank you so much for sharing them.Stephaniehttp://www.creaturebug.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-5856460217202816482010-01-28T09:55:40.923-06:002010-01-28T09:55:40.923-06:00I truly admire your courage in having this surgery...I truly admire your courage in having this surgery, and also your decision to be vulnerable and share your thoughts, feelings and experience with your readers. Much love and many prayers for you during your journey.Dovelilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03591746964880560230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-87344376692131642332010-01-28T09:33:14.081-06:002010-01-28T09:33:14.081-06:00I hold you and your decisions to have the surgery ...I hold you and your decisions to have the surgery and to post about it within my heart tenderly.Angela Raincatcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11419090110329959990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-50741742198207011572010-01-28T08:05:25.917-06:002010-01-28T08:05:25.917-06:00I think the struggle that you're are having wi...I think the struggle that you're are having with this decision (though you are clear on what that decision is) shows that you are giving it the thorough thought that such a big decision demands and that you are allowing yourself to go through the emotions it's raising - sounds pretty healthy to me. I admire that you are acknowledging the body image part and the perception of your daughters but it's far, far more than that, it's your overall health and well being - and comfort! Good for you!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03715659311790026772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-14282879538987359862010-01-28T02:10:55.719-06:002010-01-28T02:10:55.719-06:00I too am glad that you decided to share this, Heat...I too am glad that you decided to share this, Heather. You know what is right for you. We are each so different and unique, and there is no blame or shame if we decide that there is something we need to change. Peace, blessings, and a successful surgery, O xoOliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-33236762101319210152010-01-27T23:50:13.990-06:002010-01-27T23:50:13.990-06:00share it here, my darling.
or where ever you wan...share it here, my darling.<br /><br /><br />or where ever you want to.mmichelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06400779291547414615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-48373373560425381022010-01-27T23:26:38.188-06:002010-01-27T23:26:38.188-06:00i am glad you decided to share. i feel really ble...i am glad you decided to share. i feel really blessed to get a glimpse into how you feel about such a vulnerable experience like having a surgery which will change your body. <br /><br />you are very brave, heather & i hope that you are gentle as you go through that journey. no squashing what you feel! :)<br /><br />lots & lots of love.melaniehttp://www.mellyhocking.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-81557576242909098612010-01-27T22:36:10.492-06:002010-01-27T22:36:10.492-06:00Heather, this is such a beautiful, powerful, heart...Heather, this is such a beautiful, powerful, heart-felt post. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, your art, and your words. <br /><br />(((love and hugs to you)))Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17381213681911598073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9629687.post-9383106756385813752010-01-27T22:29:08.169-06:002010-01-27T22:29:08.169-06:00Certainly, it takes courage to share and I thank y...Certainly, it takes courage to share and I thank you for your vulnerability... all the best!Valerie Kamikubohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12864824409136614469noreply@blogger.com